Click here to subscribe for more videos like this: bit.ly/2kKvbSH Death & loss of a loved one is something we will all experience at some point in our lives. Learning to let go of someone close to you, and dealing with grief, sadness and loss is tough. How do you do it? Especially when your emotions are so intense? It's not something school ever really teaches you is it? Maybe you've even heard of the 7 stages of grief. But you still feel sad and angry and hurt. What do you do? 1.) Tuesdays With Morrie Morrie Schwartz talks about allowing yourself to completely feel the emotion, instead of pushing it away, and then after exhausting it, learning to let it go. The truth is there is no step by step process here. Grief is going to be different for all of us, and won't be the same each time we experience it. Instead of seeing it like a step by step tick box exercise, imagine its like a clockface. You will cycle through the emotions revolving around them and over time you will get better at dealing with these emotions. 2.) Emotional pain is like physical pain Emotional loss and pain triggers the same pain receptors in your brain as breaking your leg or losing a limb So if you lost your leg - how long would it take to heal? Imagine the same process, but for your emotional pain. You're going to need to take things a bit slower, and put your energy into healing properly and dealing with the new challenges you face day to day. 3.) You Can't Control Your Emotions, Only Manage Them Your feelings are going to come and go, and trying to ignore or suppress them through willpower won't work. Work by Psychologist Steve Peters shows that the part of the brain responsible for emotions is more powerful than the one for logic & rationality. Imagine your emotions are like a little chimp. And it's angry and upset. You can't defeat it because it's stronger than you and less intelligent. So when you feel sad, imagine you're dealing with a baby chimp that's sad. How would you deal with it then? Ignoring it won't work. It will just scream louder. You have to acknowledge it, and express it and be patient with it. So that part of your brain feels heard and cared for. 4.) Learn Your Own Mortality Use this experience to learn how precious life is and how fragile it is. Being mindful of the fact that its all going to end, helps you be more focused on what's really important. When we experience death, that's the deeper truth we're facing. The lesson of impermanence. Things are uncertain, random, and not permanent. Can we learn to be fully present, not hold back and still be able to be detached and free from our own need for certainty? Balance is key. 5.) Become Their Legacy When a person dies, they leave behind all their dreams and aims for the future. And we can use this experience to learn from the way they lived their lives and the example they set to follow. What did they stand for? What was there to learn from them? Use these lessons and become their legacy. Hope you guys enjoyed this one. Let me know your thoughts in the comments below! - Keshav Get In Touch I'd love to hear from you. Chat to me on FB: www.facebook.com/keshavbx Get on a free call with me/get help from me here: www.facebook.com/groups/1688036868097484/ Where are you watching this? Snap Me so I can see - keshavbx Similar Videos to this: Motivational Speech - Limitless www.youtube.com/watch?v=wfYXYzni9fc Motivational Speech - The Moment www.youtube.com/watch?v=bo6kL0kpJM4 Recovery vs Healing - Have You Really Let Go? bit.ly/1OAhf7s How To Overcome Life's Toughest Problems bit.ly/1Yyl1OR How To Stop Overthinking Everything bit.ly/1TlhHFB How To Be More Resilient (According to Top Psychologists) bit.ly/1ThITCR Life Changing Wisdom From a Dying Woman bit.ly/1R5Vneu The Secret Method to Being More Happy & Fulfilled in Life bit.ly/1qqkovg Credits --- Naruto: The Last Movie OST - no copyright infringement is intended. Used purely for educational/transformative purposes. If you want it taken down/any issues please get in touch at hello@revolutionhive.com! Outro - Evil Twin Records - Wild Thing eviltwinrecords.bandcamp.com/track/wild-thing CC-A licence: creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

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